A moment of transparency...Pay Attention!

If we make it to September, if one of the kids doesn’t kill us in our sleep, if the creek doesn’t rise, if the Lord says the same, if I don’t pick up my hidden packed bag and walk out…The Mister and I will be married for 17 years! And that’s a long damn mighty long time.

Over the years, we’ve learned so much about each other and have overcome many things that we’ve seen tear others apart – even close friends. I’ll be the first to say that the adjustment from “Adulting” as a single person to life as a married person is NOT easy!  Forget what you’ve heard and forget what you’ve seen on TV, in movies, and on social media – it takes work.

But, this post isn’t about the ins and outs of how my marriage has survived, why I love and genuinely like my husband or why he’s so fantastically amazing. Nor is this post about my opinion of what others should do to sustain their marriages. <so, feel free to exhale and continue reading lol>

This post is more about the amount of time it can take someone to believe AND accept the often-repeated adage: “When people show you who they are…believe them, the first time.”

From day one of meeting my husband, he told me I was his soulmate. No lie.  The…very…first…day. Now that I think about it…that was a bold playa' move wasn't it? LOL! He was giving, attentive, willing to listen, caring…the list goes on and on.

After that day and over time...whenever I needed, whatever I needed…he was THAT - repeatedly. I knew it, but I didn't know it.

Fast forward to today. Twenty years, almost four months, and some odd days after our first meeting, a simple text message <after one whirlwind morning> hit me like a ton of bricks: “…whatever you need just let me know.”

This one text message...after years of "life," caused all kinds of bells and whistles to go off. I finally got it! 

Now, by no means am I telling you to wait twenty years before taking heed to the actions and words of others. And by no means am I telling you to break free of a relationship if it has been twenty years already. My point to you is to simply, Pay Attention!

Because, like me, you may want to believe something else entirely. Some way or the other, however, people will always show you exactly who they are – believe it, accept it, move on. Don't be hard headed...like me lol.